An agent-based model of one community whose members meet every week. Members decide whether to attend the community’s gatherings, meet partners there, reveal or withhold their views on two topics, and judge each partner as “like me” or as one of “those people”. Views move toward accepted voices and are held by each member’s starting view. Each conversation has a feeling, which updates the member’s warmth toward her own side and toward the other side and strengthens or weakens the tie between the two partners; ties decide belonging, and belonging decides attendance. Listening enters as one trait, conversational receptiveness. The release includes the BehaviorSpace setup file and the output of every run reported in the accompanying paper.